My favourite thing to see and make structure and order, but why do I like it? Why does it make me relax, be calm and happy?
Let’s look first at the definition of structure as a noun, “the arrangement of and relations between the parts or elements of something complex.” and as a verb, “construct or arrange according to a plan; give a pattern or organization to”. I interpret this as something that you get a view over and have some symmetry to it, seeing a pattern.
Humans have a primitive thing for symmetry and my biggest guess comes to this. I must be a quite simple and primitive human being wanting the simple things. That is why this makes me the most happy and relaxed.
Which means that riches, women, material things would not make me happy. But them combined in an order that I can have a view and see and follow a controlled pattern for could make me happy. So, it is not to have an overflow of the volume of it, but a flow that can be managed, viewed, and controlled, which sounds like a control freak.
But then how much do I need? Never more than I cannot control obviously.
But can I do with less? Yes, I would say, for a while, but when you have control over something it can get repetitive and need to be expanded to something more to still challenge us and bring value. So, winning the lottery so you do not need work anymore, would make me unhappy, but winning money for a project to take form that you get structure to it, yes definitely makes me happy.
So, every part needs a purpose to give structure, and with that give happiness, some people need more than others, some need less, but most that have a lot, have way more than they need.
When does this make me unhappy then? No control and cannot see a pattern or a path that I can continue to follow. How to avoid this?
Impossible I would say, you need to accept this happens and it means to handle it and improve it so it falls under your patterns that you can understand, and then I can find tranquillity in it.
But is this for all people? No, some likes to feel their heartbeat and have excitement where they do not see the pattern, our daredevils and adrenalin junkies, and we need both types of people to move forward in this world.